Overcoming ancestral resentment

For those of you who believe of life after death, here is something to ponder about.

Today my daughter and I were discussing about people who through their irresponsible behavior kill other people, for example, drunk drivers, texting while driving, and so forth. I was telling my daughter that I had read about these individuals having a very hard time to live a normal life and some of them end up killing themselves because they cannot handle the burden of their guilt.

I asked my daughter what she thought would be the fastest way to overcome the resentment that the victims surely have. In addition, their families on earth and their ancestors in the spiritual world also must carry a tremendous resentment towards these individuals.

She suggested that perhaps they should die in a similar fashion than their victims. My answer to her was that even though their death in this fashion may remove some resentment, it would not solve the problem because now the ancestors of this individual may resent that death and start their own campaign of demanding restitution through yet another individual on earth who unwillingly committed that new crime. So, what should be the best solution?

Through my own understanding of the spiritual world , I believe that the best way to overcome once and for all the resentment created and liberate all these spirits that they may pursue their spiritual growth is for these individuals to actually live on earth as long as possible. They must find a way to live with their guilt and pay the indemnity necessary by living a very service oriented life. They must overcome any idea to justify their action; they must remain very humble, living a very unselfish and repentful life on earth. My understanding is that it is faster and easier to accomplish any kind of restitution while on earth. In the spiritual world, restoration process takes must longer since one will have to find someone on earth to work with.

Conscience

Recently I was trying to explain to my husband my understanding of "conscience" and where humankind stands in relationship to God and to Satan. God's kingdom is made of brilliant gold and white lights whereas Satan's kingdom is made of darkness. If one stands in the middle of the inner circle (see image at left) one has the opportunity to get a glimpse of both kingdoms, and the choices we make in our daily life will either bring us closer to one side or the other. Moreover, the closer we are to one side or the other side the more difficult it is to even see or perceive the other kingdom, and therefore the easier it is to keep going the path we have already started on.


Those who stand in the darkness cannot even understand the concept that there might be a different kingdom, and therefore the more difficult it is for them to make the effort to turn around and go a path they cannot see. On the other side away from the darkness, the closer we get to the light, the more difficult for us it becomes to reverse our path. Eventually we will come to a point where the darkness will not even be seen any longer, and therefore the path toward it will no longer exit. That point in the light will be the beginning of our perfection.

About Judgment

Many humans have done amazing great deeds of serving and sacrificing and giving for centuries, I am thinking especially of religious missionaries in Africa, Asia, and South America. It is amazing, when thinking about it, how many millions of dollars and lives have been invested in serving mankind and yet, it is not enough.

One should wonder if money is the answer. I would argue against it. I have deep respect and would certainly put anyone on a pedestal who serve and sacrifice their entire life for the sake of the unfortunate. But, it is also important to understand that, that alone will not save us from our ultimate inhalation. Why, simply because the fundamental reason of man’s misery is within his soul.

One of the mistakes that all humans make is the mistake of judgment. We pass judgment on others in the daily course of our day; we do it not just once but many a times, each and every day. We pass judgment about religious, business, and political behaviors of our peers simply because they think and act differently than I. This is one of the most fundamental mistakes of us, humans.

Case in point:
A young man from our church recently made the following comment about adoption. Why would a couple adopt only from another couple of the same church? There are so many children out there who need to be adopted. There are many ways to review and response to this question. One is obvious; it has a religious connection, which makes just plain sense. To me, the second part of the comment is a lot more important than the first part. He is passing judgment according to his way of thinking and that is where we always go wrong.

He is basically accusing other people of not adopting these hopeless children. Why, should judgment be passed? Be my guest, adopt children from where ever background you would like, I will not pass judgment, I will command you for your giving heart, and respect the way you found to help your fellow man. But, please, do not judge me for not doing so. My sacrifice, my ability to serve mankind is just different, not wrong, just different.

Religious people should know better, but we still fall into the pattern above and delay spiritual process every time we do so.

Another Case in point:
I have witness and read many vitriolic comments about the thoughts, behaviors, and decisions of the President of our country. I cannot argue any of the points because I am not politically savvy and do not pretend to understand all the issues at hand. However, from the standpoint of a religious person, I believe a different attitude would be more helpful. I hope that those of us who endlessly criticized and put down the leader of our country, do get on their knees every night and ask God to help, guide, and nurture this president of ours that he will make the correct decisions for the benefit of mankind according to God’s point of you.

We reap what we sow

We are all aware of this old saying. Most of us probably even believe it. Why then is it so difficult to pay attention to it. I watched today a YouTube video about a town meeting in Tampa. My sound was off. However, what I saw already told me that either side did not make any progress of making themselves understood. There was way too much anger and violent behavior to deserve any attention.

If one wants to be heard, listening is the first priority. If one wants understanding, then effort in comprehending a different point of view is a must. If one wants peace, then a peaceful attitude and mind is in order. There is no other way.

No matter how much ranting and raving one does about a particular point of view, the result is only a lot of noise and very little else. To be listened to, one must behave in a way that the listener will want to listen even if the listener has a different opinion. The listener must feel comfortable, he or she must not feel threatened. The listener must feel that his/her opinion is respected. If you can make the listener feel that he or she will learn something by listening, you have already won.

Leadership and Followership

Leadership is most of the time an in-born quality that still needs to be cultivated by the one person put in such a position. Very few people are actually born with that kind of quality. If we observe mankind’s behavior we will see that we are followers and very happy to be so. It take leadership qualities for a follower to stand and challenge the actions of a leader, few of us have that ability.

However, there is nothing wrong by being the follower. A follower will make or break a leader no matter who he or she is. The leader is dependent on the success of the followers, without them he or she is nothing. One ability to work under a mediocre leader and succeed in the accomplishment of the task at end is in God's eyes a successful person and deserves God’s blessings.

A follower who does not criticize, gives support and guidance when needed, is patient, is a gold mine to any leader.

We must remember that leaders are not born with the wisdom of old masters, they will make many mistakes, we have no right to judge as we are not in their shoes, our only right is to be the best support we can, following our conscience and the Principles we have learn.

If a leader does not fulfill his part of the bargain in a relationship it is not our responsibility but his or hers and it should not affect the way the follower should behave.